Assisting Victims of Violence

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Okay, here is the big subject.  The foundation and drive of the Wise Women Sisterhood.  This subject carries many questions and implications don’t you agree?  Who are we and what can we do to help all those who have been a victim?  There are many questions, almost as many as there are victims, especially since anyone can be a victim.  Each week the Wise Women light a candle and say a prayer these victims, but there has to be more.  Here, if possible, clarification and resources will provide some answers.  Who are the victims, how can they find help, and can we do more, and help provide safety?

Shamans, as you know, do healing soul retrievals, visit the other worlds and more.  Yes, a shaman can work with a victim, and do wonderful work.  However, this post is for the immediate assistance, and helping those who are suffering from the abuse and post traumatic stress (PTS) that remains years after.  More later on the work shamans can do to assist the victims.

I mentioned what do I focus on, the subject of violence is SO broad.  My focus, and the group will be violence against women, and their children.  Remaining with the Maiden, Mother, Crone aspects as our group focus.  This is still a very broad subject, but we can only do so much.

Example:  Mary is at the grocery store wearing dark glasses, and she has several bruises.  When asked what happened she says she ran into the door at home, and starts to cry…

Who are the Victims? 

First, if you have ever been a victim of any type of violence, you will want to read this and want to be of assistance to those who are victims.  If you have never been a victim…  I am sure you know someone who has been.

 

Anyone can be a victim, a child, a man, an elderly woman, a gay person, someone of a different religion, another endless list.  Feeling helpless in abusive situations makes it hard for the victims to seek out help.  Being ashamed, threatened, how do victims seek help.  Some victims feel threatened some even feel obligated to remain in a situation that keeps them victims.  Of course, all adds to the emotional abuse the victims suffer.

Victims can be of any age, sex, race, culture, religion, education, employment, or marital status.  Although both men and women can be abused, most victims are women.  Children in homes where there is domestic violence are more likely to be abused and/or neglected.  Most children in these homes know about the violence.  Even if a child is not physically harmed, they may have emotional and behavior problems.

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People just going about everyday life can become victims unaware that a threat is laying wait secretly in the mind of a terrorist.
Why do the victims stay with an abuser?

Mary won’t leave, she has too much to loose.  Her whole life is there, that house is everything… The kids, they love their dad.

The reasons for staying are nearly the same as to why they are victims.  Look at the mother with children facing abuse because the child was born disabled.  She does not seek help because she does feel helpless, or maybe ashamed.  On the other hand, there is the victim who is Hispanic, going to a church on the other side of town, she is afraid to be seen going to church in her community.  Children in homes of neglect and violence forced to just stay quiet, do not tell anyone or they will get more abuse.

The victims of terrorism suffer from violence brought from one society to another a form of social war and political power play.  The victims cannot escape without government intervention.

Teens–

Can be victims of abuse or at risk from the person they date if the other person:

  • boyfriend (or girlfriend) is very jealous and/or spies on you (called stalking)
  • will not let you break off the relationship
  • hurts you in any way, is violent, or brags about hurting other people
  • puts you down or makes you feel bad
  • forces you to have sex or makes you afraid to say no to sex
  • abuses drugs or alcohol; pressures you to use drugs or alcohol
  • has a history of bad relationships and blames it on others

If you are a child in a violent home…

Most children in these homes know about the violence.  Parents may think children do not know about the violence, but most of the time they do.  Children often know what happened.  They can feel helpless, scared, and upset.  They may also feel like the violence is their fault.

Violence in the home is dangerous for children.  Children live with scary noises, yelling and hitting.  They are afraid for their parents and themselves.  Children feel bad that they cannot stop the abuse.  If they try to stop the fight, they can be hurt.  Things that are thrown or weapons that are used can also hurt them.  Children are harmed just by seeing and hearing the violence.

Children in violent homes may not get the care they need.  A parent who is being abused may be in too much pain to take good care of their child.

Children who live in violent homes can have many problems.  They can have trouble sleeping.  They can have trouble in school and getting along with others.  They often feel sad and scared all the time.  They may grow up feeling bad about themselves.  These problems do not go away on their own.  They can be there even as the child gets older.
There is also the violence committed by adolescent against adolescent.  Many of these acts of violence happen every day right next-door, or around the corner.   Girls fighting girls because one is prettier, or one received an A, or the cute boy looked at one girl and not another.

Violence committed by adolescent just to film it or post it on the internet.

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How to Help?

 

Outreach groups can be helpful.  Victims are often afraid to seek out help from anyone fearing more abuse if caught.  If a victim can make a call for help, or talk to a friend, it is a step to getting help.

 

The Path to Safety is a good place to start, the advice and support can guide you and a victim by putting them on a safe route to help.  There you will also find information you can print, brochures, and education resources.  I highly recommend starting here if a person can.  By reading the information, you are taking a step to helping and doing something for the victim.

The information contained in this blog comes from sources off the internet, they may or may not be reliable.  Please do some research before using them.  The sources seem reliable, but the internet is not always safe. The following   government sites may be the most reliable.   www.ojp.usdoj.gov

National Domestic Violence Hotline  http://www.thehotline.org/help/

There is information for the friend who wants to help, but does not know what to do and more.

Wise Women Sisterhood receives many inquiries for assistance that are impossible to fill.  However, by offering the following list of services, we hope this help with starting a victim off in a positive direction.

Later a follow-up blog post for the future about shamanic healing for victims.

If you want more information about how to get help, call:

Common Ground Sanctuary
Toll Free

248.456.0909
800.231.1127

HAVEN
Toll Free

248.334.1274
877.922.1274

Path to Safety
No matter where you are in your relationship, planning for your emotional and physical safety is extremely important.

Help for Friends and Family
Are you concerned that a friend, family member, coworker or someone else know may be in an abusive relationship? There are ways you can help.

Help for Survivors
Are you struggling after leaving an abusive relationship? Survivors may face ongoing emotional or safety concerns but there are methods for surviving and thriving after abuse.

Help for Abusive Partners
If you identify as abusive or you’re concerned that your behaviors may be unhealthy or harmful to your partner, we can help. Learn about the potential for change.

Legal Help
If you are considering taking legal action against an abusive partner, learn more about your options and rights.

Deaf Services
We provide education, outreach, and support for the deaf, deaf-blind, and hard of hearing communities.

Pets & DV
Looking for a safe haven for you and your pet? Find pet-friendly shelters with the Safe Havens Mapping Project.

What to Expect When You Contact The Hotline
You might feel anxious about reaching out for help. Here’s what to expect when you contact us.

Tech & Social Media Safety
Technology is ever changing, and it can be used to jeopardize your safety or as a means to keep you safe.

Be safe, and may creator watch over you,

Nightsky~2016 (c)

The information contained in this blog comes from sources off the internet, they may or may not be reliable.  Please do some research before using them.  The sources seem reliable, but the internet is not always safe. The following   government sites may be the most reliable.   www.ojp.usdoj.gov

 


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